Do you talk to yourself? Everyone does! Even if you don’t talk out loud, you speak to yourself all the time. That is why it is so important what we say to ourselves on a daily basis. Read on to see how you can talk yourself into a better life.
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The power of self-talk: What you say to yourself really counts
Many times we subconsciously talk to ourselves and say things we don’t even realize we’re saying. And we believe what we say. Then we do what we tell ourself. It’s as simple as waking up to an alarm and saying, “Ah I’ll give myself a few more minutes.” And then it becomes a daily habit. But we can change that and we can become more aware of what we say in order to say the right things.
It’s easier to dismiss what someone else tells us if we don’t believe it to be true. However, most of the things we tell ourself we tend to take seriously because we believe it to be true.
It is that belief that we can consciously change. There are specific things that people do that hinder progress in their life. I’m going to share 8 things you need to get rid of and how you can replace that with positive affirmations and habits.Self-talk is the most powerful form of communication, because it either empowers you or it defeats you. Click To Tweet
What you can do now to talk yourself into a better life
I’m going to share with you 8 things you should give up today and how you can turn each thing around into a positive. I’ll show you how you can create words with meaning that can change your life for the better instead of tear you down. Also, I will provide a positive self-affirmation with each topic so you can start the positive self-talk today!
- Doubting yourself. How many times do we do this? We’re not sure if we’re good enough, smart enough, brave enough, etc. so we start to make excuses why we might fail. Kick that doubt to the curb! Say this instead: I may have limitations, but I am capable of great things. I can withstand and adapt to any obstacle in my way and I will be successful.
- Negative self-talk. You might not realize how much you talk negatively to yourself. When was the last time you said something positive about yourself? Challenge yourself: For the next 10 days look in the mirror and tell yourself at least one thing that you feel positive about yourself. Something you are grateful for or something you’re proud of.
- Fear of failure. Check out my post on how to combat a fear of failure. This is something that holds so many people back from chasing their dreams. Everyone fails sometimes, and it’s time to tell yourself: I may fail at some things in life, however I cannot and will not fail at everything. There is something out there that I will not only be successful at, but I will shine brilliantly! Instead of saying what if it doesn’t work, ask yourself: What if it does?
- Procrastination. I’ll do it later, or I’ll put that off until tomorrow. We all do it. Some people more than others. Sometimes getting started on a task or goal is the hardest part for some people. Speak action into your life: Although I can do this later, there is no time like the present and completing this task or goal now will free up my time to__________(you insert something here)
- Fear of success. For some fear of failure is strong, but for others fear of success can be all too real. We get comfortable in our safety zone, even if it’s not where we want to be in life. It may not be a good place, but it’s a familiar one and fear of the unknown can make some people fear success. What will life be like? Tell yourself this: Success is my goal. It may not be familiar and comfortable at first, but it will be everything I’ve ever dreamed of and wanted. And most of all I deserve it. Sometimes fear of success can be an underlying feeling of not being worthy or deserving of the good things we’re going after.
- People pleasing. What will they think? I hope so and so feels ok with this. I don’t want anyone to be mad at me. We tell ourselves things that really are not relevant. The bottom line is this: We cannot please everyone all the time. And if we spend a lifetime trying we will spend a lifetime dying on the inside. We are the one who feels the pain of what we think others are feeling. However, the people who we fear what will they think most likely are not thinking or worrying about the issue at all. A lot of times it’s all in our head. So instead ask yourself: What will I think? Am I ok with this? Does it make me happy? Does it align with my goals? Will it bring good into my life and the lives of those closest to me? If you can say yes, then don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. People will always have something to say, just so they can have something to say.
- Negative thinking. This pertains to overall thinking. Not just the negative self-talk, but how we talk to others. How do we respond to others? What type of energy do we bring into a room? Ask yourself: Am I bringing positive energy, or negative energy? Tell yourself: I will bring a more positive vibe when I walk into a room. And when I leave I will leave a little bit of positivity there to keep it going even when I’m gone.
- Criticizing yourself and others. The hardest person on you is yourself. No doubt about it. We can be so overly critically to our own detriment. And we can do that to other people. Start analyzing yourself in a more realistic way. Tell yourself: Although I may need to work on this ____ or get better at that ______I do possess this quality, talent or trait ______ and I can use that to improve on ______ and become a better person and live a better life.
Share this with someone who you think can use this motivation. Comment below on something positive you say to yourself.